appropriate sexual behavior

i spend all this time thinking about appropriate sexual behavior. this is NOT a prescription for everyone. this is merely a thought process.

i figured out what, for me, constitutes appropriate sexual behavior.

an equal exchange of energy. that's all. i like kant's deontology, and within that framework i have a duty not to harm myself and others. any form of sexual behavior in which the exchange of energy is unequal harms at least one of the two parties.

theoretically of course the idea of harm perpetuated by an unequal exchange of sexual energy works perfectly. whether you'd like to accept that P1) harm occurs, P2) harm is detrimental, and P3) you do not wish to cause detriment is up to you. i can say, however, from personal experience, that at the very least the first two premises of my argument are sound. P3) is really the premise you must accept in order to infer to C). C) is that you clearly ought not to engage in sexual conduct in which the exchange of energy is somehow unequal.

now the always-pending question: what does this insight mean for my life? it means that i am definitely going to stop hooking up with one person. it also means that there is only one person i wish to continue hooking up with. finally, it means that a recent decision i made was the correct decision.