About a Paulo Coelho Status Update

"We don't need to explain our love. We only need to show it." - Paulo Coehlo

my first reaction to this, as a philosopher, was NO WE NEED TO DEFINE/DESCRIBE/EXPLAIN EVERYTHING. plus i'm just argumentative. plus there's something relevant going on in my life.

after some meditation on the topic, though, i changed my mind.

i wanted someone to explain the nature of our relationship. okay, so he loves me to some extent. as a friend, whatever not that i would really know since he hasn't explained it to me? i asked him about it, and he answered in riddles that explain nothing/everything as usual (by everything i mean not love but literally EVERYTHING.)

but then i realized something. he shows it. he is my friend, and he is a new but good friend. he has never been anything but nice to me. and the love he shows positively correlates with the explanation of that love: he is my friend. the other confusing actions involved are not actually a show of love. those are, and i'm hypothesizing, probably a mere reaction to visceral desires.

SO. i'm basically done with subjectivity now. let's move to an objective application of this particular scenario to the macrocosm.

if this can be applied as a general principle, then all relationships suddenly make so much sense. if someone doesn't show you love, then don't waste your energy on loving that person.

if someone shows you the love of friendship, then love that person as a friend. if someone shows you the love of family, then love that person as a family member. if someone shows you the love of true intimacy, then love that person intimately. ETC.

"and in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make." i'm all about the equal exchange of energy in relationships, in case you didn't notice. if that exchange isn't fair and equal, it will even out karmically at some point anyway.